Loving action is very context based. It is customized to the moment and the people involved. Loving action can look and feel conditional to the recipient. If the recipient’s heart is closed and they can only receive actions, then their reality is they were loved conditionally, even if the giver emotionally loved unconditionally. No wonder love is so confusing.
No wonder love is so hard to define.
No wonder we can experience so many painful misunderstandings. Without talking about it, without teachings, we’re left to making up our own definitions to fill in the gaps of our understanding. Once those definitions are locked in, they just add to the confusion.